~~~ SOUL MATE ~~~

I can open the door to your soul mate for you - but you need to cross the threshold yourself

Please note: Unfortunately I am not able to provide any consulting in English. Consultations will only be held in German. However, as a service to all those English-speaking people who after having met their soul mate could do with a little help and advice on how best to cope with this situation, I have decided to made this text available in English too.

The "soul mate" topic is a very comprehensive one. When your soul mate enters your life for the first time, this is not always an easy situation to deal with. The reason for this is that most of the time, a lot of learning tasks are associated with meeting your soul mate. For the female soul mate, who more often than not is the one who suffers the most at the onset of this connection, this is often not easy to handle. Her suffering often results from the fact that the male soul mate fairly quickly withdraws from her life again.

Each of the two soul mates is undergoing different soul mate phases in order for both partners to develop further, so that in the end they will be able to meet each other again on a completely new level. Which phases have to be passed through exactly, what you should pay attention to and what exactly happens during these phases will be described in great detail in my future book. The text on hand as it were merely offers a taste of this upcoming soul mate book.

I gladly offer those concerned support by means of this text, as it will put you in a better position to bridge the waiting time that mostly goes hand in hand with meeting your soul mate. Any obstacles arising in the process will become easier to comprehend and overcome.

SOUL MATE INSIGHTS

 FIND XOUR OWN TRUTH

 (Recognise yourself - through your soul mate)

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MEETING THIS SOUL MATE FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME

In most cases, it is love at first sight, from both sides. Both are asking themselves why they are telling a complete stranger that many private or intimate details from their life, and why there has been such an uncanny intimacy between them from the start. This results from the fact that the two already know each other from one or several past lives.

AFTER THE FIRST MEETING

In most cases, the male soul mate completely withdraws after the first meeting, or after a short while. He does not understand at all what has happened - the world really does not make any sense to him any more, as something like this has never happened to him before.

Although the female soul mate is experiencing exactly the same, in most cases she does not wish to withdraw. She too does not really understand what is going on, but she realises very quickly that this man is her absolute soul mate - the man of her dreams. She suffers a lot from his withdrawal and can sense very strongly when he is not feeling well, even if he is staying far away from her.

THE REASON FOR THE WITHDRAWAL

When two soul mates meet for the very first time, enormous energies are exchanged between the two partners. (It is not even necessary to exchange these energies on a physical level, it is sufficient to stay in the vicinity of the soul mate and these energies can even be perceived across great distances.)

Once the initial contact with the soul mate has been established, she can intensely feel him even if he is not staying anywhere near. There is mostly a telepathic connection between the two; however this also depends on how far both have already developed and matured.

Now these energies first have to get used to each other, so to speak. These intimate energies and the telepathy create an incredibly strong attraction between the two soul mates that is difficult to escape.

As the male soul mate in particular does not know how to deal with these energies in the beginning, he very quickly withdraws again. He does not understand what is happening, what kind of situation he is dealing with here. In most of the cases, he does not believe that such a perfect woman exists, as he has so far only known someone like her from his dreams. In addition, he is in 95% of all cases still tied to a relationship or marriage and very quickly starts to use his brain and his sense of duty takes over. More details can be found further down in the text.

Both soul mates very quickly realise that they could be for each other exactly what they had always imagined their "dream partner" to be and that they would be able to supplement each other in all respects. Unfortunately, in the beginning, the female soul mate believes in this more than the male soul mate does.

WHY THE FEMALE SOUL MATE OFTEN HAS TO SUFFER SUCH A LONG TIME IN THE BEGINNING

In most cases, the female soul mate suffers a lot. In the beginning, she sustains the entire energy of the male soul mate as well, until the time when he eventually manages to gain momentum and move. To start with, she has to suffer quite a while (sometimes for months, sometimes even for years) and is in emotional agony. Although he is going through the same emotions, in the beginning he mostly does not realise that this is triggered by the female soul mate. In most cases, his suffering starts at a later point in time when the two soul mates have already passed through some of the soul mate phases. (What phases exactly that are will be described in detail in my future book.)

In most soul partnerships where romantic love is the driving force, the male soul mate is still bound. Often he is tied up in a marriage that has no longer been working for a long time already and that is forcibly held together, while he is actually only fooling himself and is no longer able to unfold his personality any further. This situation he often maintains unconsciously because he has given his promise in the beginning or because he does not want to loose the security he has built up over many years. Another possibility is that he is still clinging strongly to the past. However, he is only fooling himself for a very long time, as he is too scared to loose everything and to be branded the "bad guy“ in the end.

It has often, but not always, been observed in these marriages or partnerships that the male soul mate's wife is very dominant, or that they are merely staying but no longer living together. But it may just as well be the case that they have already separated physically, but not yet on paper.

If in rare cases, when the soul mates meet for the first time, he is not or no longer tied up in a partnership, then he mostly is grappling with a strong, still undissolved bond with his mother. At the same time, it may happen that at a later point in time he gets involved with one or several women, something which in reality has a deeper sense. The reasons for his behaviour I will explain in the last paragraph of my text.

During the time the two soul mates do not see each other, there is nevertheless a very strong emotional bond between them.

If the male soul mate is not feeling well, the female soul mate will perceive this very quickly and will be aware of it. Because of that, she is then also not feeling so well any more, as she has not yet learned to delimit herself from him.

If on the contrary she is feeling unwell, he often does not notice it immediately. In the beginning, he is not aware that this has something to do with her, but he believes he is feeling off-colour because he has overworked or has simply had a rotten day.

EMOTIONAL AGONIES

The worst situation arises when one of the two partners starts to miss the other one. The other partner senses this unconsciously and starts to miss his/her partner in turn. For the female soul mate, this is often very painful, as in the beginning she sustains most of the energy for him, until he gains momentum and starts to move as well.

This mutual feeling of yearning is then getting worse and worse and beyond all bearing for her, as it is hitting her from both sides, thus virtually doubling and even tripling.

This can become so bad for the female soul mate that she feels like someone is pulling the rug from under her feet. In some cases things can get that extreme that she starts to develop a death yearning.

Although these energies eventually start to settle again, they may also return as many times at it takes for the soul mates to learn how to properly deal them.

HOW TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH THESE ENERGIES, OR THE LEARNING TASKS OF THE SOUL MATES BEFORE THEY MAY ENTER A PARTNERSHIP!

LEARNING TASK OF THE FEMALE SOUL MATE

The female soul mate will first of all have to learn to be patient, because a soul mate does not move very fast towards you. In addition to patience, she needs to learn to trust, because these are the learning tasks that are the most difficult for her. If this was easy for her to do, then these would not be learning tasks, would they? At the same time, she should learn to release the soul mate again in confidence. I am deliberately writing "in confidence", because nothing can be achieved here by pure force.

However, releasing him does not mean to replace him with another man, because that would mean that the learning task has not been understood. However, this possibility will most likely be a moot point anyway, because right at the beginning of a soul mate partnership it is very difficult to release him and during this time, other men hardly spark any interest with her!

The trust or confidence I have been talking about above I define in more detail as follows:

You should put your best possible confidence in the universe (God and the angels). Just trust that everything is all right the way it currently is, and that he will start to approach you at the right point in time, when he too has understood his learning tasks. Of course it sounds like quite a paradox if I say that you should release him and at the same time trust. But that is exactly the point that has to do with spiritual growth, because if you place your universal trust in everything, then you also know that the things that are right for you will be sent to you by the universe or allowed to enter your life at the right point in time.

Only once you have reached the source of your wisdom will you recognise the ridiculousness of time and space.

 (unknown)

Now you will most probably ask: "How do I release my soul mate in confidence?“

Releasing in confidence means: to accept everything as it is right now and to be content as everything is perfectly alright the way it is at this point in time.

In the same vane, you should try to continue enjoying your life! This also includes joyfully performing tasks you have lately neglected and also - if you are single - to mingle with other people and to have fun. You may also go out with other men, and although they will not bear comparison with the soul mate, this is important so that you can enjoy life despite all difficulties.

Just because we are lacking a piece of happiness, we should not be deterred from enjoying everything else.

 (Jane Austen)

The male soul mate will start to move, but not right now!

You see, if the universe would allow this to happen, although none of you has already passed through his/her learning tasks, this liaison would explosively break up again. These energies slowly have to get used to each other and this is also why small pebbles and sometimes even huge boulders hamper your advance at the beginning of this path.

The person who shifted the mountain was the same person who started to carry away small stones.

(Chinese proverb)

Of course it is difficult and almost impossible to release him in the beginning, but with time you will notice that it becomes increasingly easier. Eventually you will have mastered this challenge completely. That which is the most difficult to accomplish in life mostly has to be learned the hard way first!

It will probably also be difficult to return your own life back to a normal state and to steer it back on course. As you have been so distracted since the male soul mate has entered your life, you should learn step by step how to once more discover your own composure and joy. This also means to joyfully carry out activities in the HERE and NOW, although this now often seem very dislikeable because you would rather dwell in phantasy visions about him. Of course it would be easier to perform these tasks if the male soul mate were already at your side, but unfortunately, no further development of your own personality and spirituality would then be possible.

Love can never be found outside of you, if you have not yet found it within yourself. And should you happen to find it, it is quite often not pure love, but rather something that is based on power games, expectations and demands on the other partner.

If at this point you start giving yourself the love and confirmation you really need but actually expect from the male soul mate, this will be what opens up the opportunity for the male soul mate to move somewhat towards the female soul mate and to reinforce her inner feeling of worthiness by means of the things that are happening on the outside.

LEARNING TASK OF THE MALE SOUL MATE

The male soul mate's learning task is primarily to abandon his overly intellectual attitude and to start acting in accordance with his feelings rather than in accordance with his brain.

He does not really believe in these miraculous or extraordinary circumstances that have happened or arisen through the female soul mate on the occasion of their first meeting or later on in everyday life. 

He should learn to open up to the insight that exactly this female soul mate is his complementary counterpart and that she could offer him everything he has ever dreamed of. Although he unconsciously senses this, he denies it and withdraws, starts to think and behaves very weirdly. By and by the male soul mate becomes more conscious and thus able to slowly open up to the female soul mate and to get closer to her.

Often he additionally has to learn to dissolve his present partnership, as he has been fooling himself for a long time already and is cheating on himself. But in most cases, he finds it very difficult to separate for the forementioned safety or generation reasons.

Reason can tell us what we should refrain from, but the heart can tell us

what we have to do.

(Joseph Joubert)

As soon as he has learned to trust and to be honest, towards himself, towards his female soul mate and also towards other people, he will understand why all these things are happening in his life.

This has got nothing to do with the fact that his current marriage or partnership should be destroyed. These two soul mates have to meet while one of the partners, or perhaps even both, is still bound.

The universe has set things up exactly in this manner so that the soul mates meet at a time when their respective marriage or partnership has been approaching a crisis for quite some time already, and when it is no longer possible to experience any further spiritual development with the present partner. If the soul mates were to meet when they are both available, they would not be able to understand and master their respective life tasks.

Nobody is able to control where Cupid's arrow will hit - these are just uncontrollable events, which take place at an unconscious level.

You are always interested in another person or fall in love with him/her, if your higher Self notices that with or through this other person something can be learned or some personal development can take place through him/her.

This is why the situation may occur that one or both of the soul mates still hold on to their existing marriage or partnership, but on the other hand are willing to have an affair. This shows that the existing partnership has become stale and is only upheld for various obscure reasons. If it was a happy partnership, no other person would be able to intrude. Often it is only material things that the partners are clinging too or they are staying out of consideration for the other and in the end are only punishing themselves with this behaviour, because he/she by all means wishes to avoid a decision. Too many fears are dominating his/her mind: "What will people say?“, "What will I think of myself?“, "How will life carry on if everything changes?“ etc. etc.

However, an important reason why the male soul mate often clings to his current partnership is that there are common children. But exactly at this point he should consider that children often suffer more if a partnership is only held together for their sake, than if their parents separate. Children often unconsciously sense what is truly going on.

Either they suffer from their parents' endless quarrelling and notice that their parents are no longer in love, or they adopt the same behaviour in their later love life, also quarrel a lot with their partner or unconsciously keep on picking such a partner and then also do not separate because of the children. Thus, children may be prevented from truthfully making their way in life because a pattern is created which may permeate several generations. Apart from that, nobody really knows whether these children or this child has not already undertaken before this life to learn from their parents' separation and to use this experience for his/her personal growth.

GET-TOGETHER OF THE SOUL MALES INTO THE MUCH LONGED FOR PARTNERSHIP

When both have accomplished their learning tasks, the universe will automatically unite them. Now it depends on who of the two is faster. Mostly this is the female soul mate, because the male soul mate often still lags a bit behind with his learning tasks. Now the female soul mate has to wait, but without taking a seat in the "waiting room".

By this is meant that she will continue to live her life joyfully, because now she has  for the most part learned to be patient and to trust. This she will also realize by the fact that suddenly she has a lot more patience and trust in many other things in her life. Her neediness has also disappeared and there are hardly any yearning feelings left.

Both soul mates should become aware of the fact that they have learned something through the other and also what exactly it is that they have learned. By now, both should also have sorted out their private circumstances. Only then will they be brought together and united.

For this reason I recommend to everyone to be grateful if the coming together of the partners drags on for a while, because if they would enter into a partnership fairly quickly, the energies would be too overwhelming and the partners would be explosively separated again.

Often such connections come together and break apart several times. In such a case, the learning themes are even more extreme and often connected with power games. You have to proceed very cautiously to avoid landing in the mental home due to the overly fast development. 

WHAT IS IT LIKE IN A SOUL MATE CONNECTION?

If both are eventually led together after a long time, the resulting union cannot be compared with any other partnership. Both highly esteem each other and their love for each other is so great that they are leading a completely new, fulfilled live. Both energies have augmented and as it were, the two also jointly follow the spiritual path to enlightenment. Both can offer to the other everything they have so far only been dreaming about. Every wish is unconsciously read off the other's eyes. The partners support and encourage each other in every respect and together they can achieve things in live which on their own they would have never been able to accomplish. Often these are partnerships that last a whole lifetime. I have added the word "often“ to this sentence, because everyone has his own free will and can also decide against the partnership.

Thanks to all this, the two can also act as a great example to others by showing them how to deal with each other in a partnership. At the same time, a great contribution is made towards humanity, because these energies help other people to develop and mature much faster and to increase their energies.

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

WHY IS IT NECESSARY TO FIRST SUFFER SUCH INFERNAL AGONY?

As the two partners know each other from an earlier live, this anguish has to be suffered as this forms part of dissolving the karma between these two. Thus, something from an earlier life has not yet been clarified and must first of all be sorted out in this life. Although this agony is very intense, it is possible to release it.

You notice exactly when the karma has been dissolved, because then you enter into a partnership, often only to master different new learning tasks. This emotional agony is part of the soul mate issue, because otherwise the partners would not become conscious of their learning tasks and further development.

Of course there are exceptions where it is possible to enter a partnership already at a very early stage, but then the karmic learning issues will have to be learned in an even tougher manner. This I have already described above.

WHY DO I CONTINUE FALLING INTO THIS BLACK HOLE?

This is part of the whole situation, because you need to learn to handle these feelings and to stand above such things in the end. The faster you learn to handle these emotional setbacks, the faster they will pass. It is particularly important to accept the current situation exactly as it is, as this is exactly how the universe wanted it to be and how it is right for you.

WHAT CAN I DO WHEN I START TO DOUBT AGAIN?

If you are starting to doubt again whether or not the two  of you will come together - and these doubts will definitely arise quite often as these are tests conceived by the universe - then you can do the following:

Ask the universe or your angels for a confirmation so that you can be sure whether your patience and trust should still be maintained.

The reply will often come in the shape of a sign, e.g. a poster bearing his name you discover somewhere in town, or contributions on the radio where his name is mentioned or a song that you associate with him. These are the things that will then happen!

WHAT CAN I DO SO HE COMES TO ME FASTER OR TO PREVENT ME SUFFERING SO MUCH?

The faster you are able to release him emotionally and to accept the situation as it is at the moment - as this fulfils a certain purpose -  the faster you will stop suffering so much and the male soul mate in principle starts to move faster towards you.

It is especially important to develop self-love. This is because human beings always think that the love they need can only be given to them by this partner. But this is definitely not the case. Only once you have learned to love yourself and to make yourself the gift of the love that you so desperately need will you be able to also receive and accept this love 100% from your partner.

HOW DO I KNOW THAT I HAVE RELEASED HIM AND HAVE NOT ONLY SUPPRESSED THOUGHTS OF HIM?

This you will know by the fact that you are able to reflect about your situation, which is in principle quite unsatisfactory, without developing any bad feelings about it any more. If you accept everything as it is at this point in time, then you have started to trust so deeply that you feel good nevertheless and that you greatly enjoy your life. You should first learn to find love inside yourself and to be happy on your own, only then will you be able to release him. If feelings of dissatisfaction keep on emerging, than this mostly has to do with your own desire for change. As soon as these feelings of dissatisfaction are gone, you have succeeded in releasing him.

HOW LONG WILL I MOSTLY HAVE TO WAIT?

These times differ. Some only wait for six months, which is also the shortest time I would advice you to wait. Others wait from several months to several years. Some people take 10 years or longer to understand their learning tasks. It is virtually impossible to specify a certain time in this regard, as everyone is responsible for him-/herself and his/her own learning tasks. The faster you tackle your learning tasks, the faster this partnership will become possible.

HINTS AND TRICKS TO FIND YOUR SOUL MATE:

There are different possibilities of finding your soul mate, but nobody can give you a guarantee that you will meet him at all in this life.

But the time qualities are improving and more and more people these days are meeting their soul mate. This is because the soul mate also has a lot to do with the topic of 2012. Many people know that on 21.12.2012 the earth will start to rise into the fifth dimension and for this reason, many people still have to meet so that old karma and patterns that are no longer needed can be dissolved. I will provide more information in this regard in my future book, as this subject would go far beyond the scope of this text.

The following are prerequisites that are often connected with finding your soul mate:

·         e.g. you have started to take the spiritual path.

·         e.g. you have decluttered your house and have separated from a lot of old things that once were very important to you (and which are consequently very difficult to release).

·         e.g. you have passed your wish for a soul mate to the universe

How will I know and how can I be really sure that he or she is my soul mate?

·         If synchronicities occur between the two of you and externally.

·         If the same things keep happening to him that are happening to you, or vice versa.

·         If you are going through similar experiences.

·         If the same things that are happening to you are obviously happening or keep on happening to a friend.

ERRORS YOU SHOULD AS FAR AS POSSIBLE AVOID:

·         You should on no account exert pressure on the male soul mate or blackmail him as he will withdraw even further. Allow him the time he needs.

·         You should not fall into depression and consider your life no longer worth living, because this is exactly what will take you away from your learning task.

·         You should remain in a state of confidence and always think positive about him and others.

IF THE MALE SOUL MATE IS INTERESTED IN OTHER WOMEN AND IS TRYING TO GET CLOSE TO THEM, RATHER THAN TO YOU:

You should try coping with this situation.

Because this means at the same time that you have another learning programme - coming to grips with jealousy. You see, what reason is there for him to try and get close to other women? Because he is trying to find out whether there is another person just like you, where the circumstances are just as wonderful as with you!

However, he will not find such a woman, but he can only consciously accept this fact if he tries it out beforehand - and this in turn will only be for your benefit in the end.

Because he is trying things out he is collecting experience and he will be surprised to find that he will not find someone like you again. For you, this can be associated with a lot of pain and create a lot of anger, but if he did not do this, he would not be able to find out that YOU are indeed the right one for him.

So now, good luck with your learning tasks!

Yours Gabriele Hannemann

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Private as well as telephone consulting can be ordered directly via my shop or also by telephone.

Please note: Unfortunately I am not able to provide any consulting in English. Consultations will only be held in German. However, as a service to all those English-speaking people who after having met their soul mate could do with a little help and advice on how best to cope with this situation, I have decided to made this text available in English too.

The focus of my consulting is also on:

Support or assistance in the following areas:

-  Soul mate issues

- Accurate character descriptions of persons

- Accurate descriptions of situations

-  Partnership/marriage

- Coping with everyday life

- Coping with depression from a spiritual point of view

    (Assistance to consider your own problems from a spiritual point of view, thus releasing all patterns)

-  Uncovering of untruthfulness in respect of persons or situations

-  Buying / renting a flat

    (Is the flat/the house I wish to rent/buy ok?)

-  Car

    (Should I buy this car? Is everything ok with my car, are there any defects?)

-  Career, deciding on a career

    (What are my capabilities, where is the path of my soul? How will my career proceed?)

-  Money

    (How can I improve my financial situation? How do I attract abundance and prosperity?)

-  Spiritual development

     (Where do I stand? What are my capabilities? How can I expand my spiritual capabilities?)

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